The Power of Comparison: Why I Embrace It Instead of Avoiding It
Everyone tells us that comparison is a bad thing. We’re constantly warned against it, especially in the personal growth and business development space. They say it leads to feelings of inadequacy, envy, and self-doubt. But I’ve come to see comparison in a different light, one that has empowered me rather than diminished me.
When I see someone else achieving great things, I could choose to be intimidated, but instead, I choose to be inspired. That’s a conscious decision. I can look at a successful person, whether it’s a Tony Robbins, a Mel Robbins, or an Elizabeth Gilbert, and think, “Wow, they’ve already done what I want to do. Why bother?” But instead, I think, “I want to be my version of them.” This isn’t about copying them, but about being inspired by their success and using that inspiration to fuel my own journey.
I’ve realized that comparison doesn’t have to be about feeling less than. It can be about seeing what’s possible. When I see someone else doing incredible work, I don’t shrink back. Instead, I step up. I remind myself that I can do what they’re doing, but in my own unique way. Comparison, for me, is a tool for growth, not a pitfall.
Years ago, I wanted to take my work to the next level. I was deeply inspired by Elizabeth Gilbert and admired her for her impact and authenticity. Instead of just admiring her from a distance, I took action. I reached out to her agent and, after some negotiation (and a bit of financial investment), I had Elizabeth on stage with me at one of my events. That experience was a turning point. It wasn’t just about sharing the stage with someone I admired; it was about realizing that I could create opportunities like that for myself.
That’s the power of comparison when used positively. It’s not about jealousy or feeling inadequate; it’s about seeing what’s possible and deciding to step into that possibility. I’ve made the choice to be inspired by the success of others, to learn from them, and to apply those lessons to my own life.
So, next time you catch yourself comparing, ask yourself: Are you intimidated or inspired? Choose inspiration. Choose to see what’s possible for you. You might just surprise yourself with what you can achieve.
Blessings,
Rick